It has been a heavy weekend on the Morning Chalkboard.
Saturday belonged to Nietzsche and Sunday belongs to Tolstoy. That wasn't accidental. When you put these two back to back, you are asking people to sit with discomfort instead of running away from it.
Tolstoy’s writings consistently challenged readers to look inward rather than outward, urging personal accountability before social transformation. Today’s quote distills that idea into one hard sentence... "everyone wants to change the world, but no one wants to change himself." It sounds simple until you realize how few people are willing to live it. This past week has been relentless. Hanukkah is in full force and Christmas is barreling toward us. The calendar closing in on the end of 2025 with all the subtle and not-so-subtle reminders that time doesn’t negotiate. Add to that the background noise of stress, anxiety, and fatigue, and you have the perfect storm.
Then come the headlines.
Another school shooting, this one at Brown University. The massacre of Jews celebrating the beginning of Hanukkah in Australia. The murder of celebrity Rob Reiner and his wife.
It is this last one that I want to chalk about here..
All week long we watched old interviews, clips, and tributes. The one moment that stood out to me was an interview with James Woods. Woods is an actor we all know, but in recent years he has become well known for his far-right conservative views. Rob Reiner lived on the opposite end of the political spectrum. Reiner was far left, unapologetic and outspoken.
Here is the part that matters. They were close friends for over forty years.
They debated, they argued and they challenged each other. They didn’t hide their differences or soften their convictions. These were two of the loudest, most relentless voices on opposite sides of the political divide. Two of the biggest mealy mouths on Twitter, if we are being honest here. Neither one was shy about telling the world exactly what they thought.
Yet, when the noise stopped... they broke bread together, they showed up for milestones and they stayed friends. That isn't nostalgia from the Archie Bunker and George Jefferson days. That is a lost skill that we need to redevelop for the middle of this century.
Somewhere along the way, we have decided disagreement meant disqualification. That difference meant danger. That the goal was to defeat the person instead of understand them. We built our identities around being right instead of being decent.
History doesn’t reward that kind of bullshit.
The political leaders of the first half of the twenty-first century will one day lie beside Ozymandias. Shattered reputations scattered across forgotten sands. Power always fades and ego always collapses. Like I keep hammering into you Chalkheads, time eventually keeps a clean ledger.
This is the moment when we must look deep inside ourselves and ask what the fuck is going on. Not just with the world around us, but with us inside.
As these holidays draw to a close, it is time to winterize something deeper than our homes.
Winterize our hearts.
Rejuvenate our minds.
Patch the cracks in our souls.
Do the quiet work before demanding loud change from everyone else.
When we have done that, then we can start reaching out. Call the friend who slowly became a stranger. Read something you wouldn’t normally read. Walk a different route. Let unfamiliar ground teach you something. Find the part of yourself that needs to be reinvented, reinforced, or replaced.
Light your last candle tonight. Open your first present this week. Watch the clock turn toward a new year with intention instead of fear.
Today is the winter solstice. The world is tilted at 23.5 degrees. The shortest day is behind us. From here on out, the light returns slowly and steadily. Our days get longer, our shadows shorten.
Eat something decadent today and have a little gusto. Hug someone who loves you and enjoy that smile on the sun.